I have been seeing these TV commercials – that’s about all I see on TV these days – since I don’t own my own TV anymore. I gave mine away to two people that I used call me their family and friend! But that is not very important; nor is it the point of this blog post.
This post is entitled “KY-INTENSE.” That is the name of a lubricant made for having sexual intercourse. Now, mind you, while for most of my adult life I have been a sexual man with fairly normal (I would say) sexual interest. But, in the last 2 ½ years, which is appoximately the amount of time that I have been separated from my wife; who I have been trying to get divorced from, I have only had two encounters with two Connecticut resident women that never ended up with any completed intimate activity; meaning that it did not complete itself in the bedroom. One of these woman, the whom I don’t even speak anymore lives in Branford, CT and the other happens to be a very good friend and professional associate who I speak with regularly and have a plutonic relationship. But all this information is also not the point to this post.
But, alas, here begins the point. In the commercial for KY-INTENSE, there is a couple that is being interviewed while sitting on their bed. The point of this commercial is all about satisfying the woman sexually from the standpoint of having a HUGE orgasm. The man is mostly interested, insofar as the commercial is concerned, in being “The Man” i.e., the one that made the bell really RING! And so, his mate says “Oh yes, you’re The Man!” and then she asks him to go somewhere so that she could talk behind his back… wow, talk about the kind of a scenario that is pathetically common in our culture today… So, while he’s out of listening distance, the woman picks up the KY-INTENSE box and raves about how it is really the thing that satisfies her. Then they show a scene; just after the couple had sex with the guy asking again – Who’s The Man? And his mate, who obviously is still recovering from a huge orgasm, says – oh yea, you’re the man…!
To me, this commercial is a slap in the face to all of us. Many or most don’t seem to make love anymore. We have even trained our bodies to respond to the outer shell of sexual interaction – but nothing touching the inner part; the heart and the soul. It seems that we’ve become a culture of substitutes; just kind of masturbating, while being spiritually detached through our supposed affectionate interplay. Very little heart; just another way of trying to escape the truth of what we’ve co-created.
One might say that the woman, through humoring her husband, was being respectful(?) – yea right - of what, his feelings? No, when we can’t be honest with our mate, there is no true respect and no true experience of love either. A song that comes to mind is: “The Love I Lost” - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bhuZxaqj99g. We may feel like we have lost our love, but it’s there inside each of us. And all we have to do is first to acknowledge the truth of that for ourselves and then to begin sharing who we really are with each other. In fact, our Love is present and ready to be doing just fine!
