For me, I would have to say that matters of the heart have complicated my life more than anything else.  It may be that I personally desire the experience of love that is characteristically shared through the composite of marriage more than might be considered balanced and easily possible.
 

The living process of marriage is one that can hold the most magical experiences imaginable (I’ve known that with my wife), and yet – it seems all to easy to forget the true magical components that offered the deepest felt feelings of love when a few chips are down.
 

I, personally, know that I’ve never worn a halo over my head (ever) but certainly also during my marriage.  But I would have to say that; neither did my wife.  I do know that we did love each other at the deepest and most remarkable levels possible, at one time.  Our love went up and down a few times, but I felt that it always returned to a very special and sacred place (even during the most challenging times).  I actually thought that those times (the sacred and beautiful times) were much more recent in both of our experiences than they, apparently, were.
 

Sometimes (pretty often I guess these days), everything that was enough for both becomes not enough in the experience of one of the partners.  And instead of really trying to work it out together, the partner that is most dissatisfied goes searching elsewhere.  This is more often what happens in life these days than anything else.  People just quit.  They think that they find the person that is really the answer to all of their deepest desires in a relationship or even in life itself.  But it never turns out that way – NEVER!  There is a very simple reason that it doesn’t work out.  The reason is, that the problems that the person thought that they had in the relationship, from the standpoint of what they had in their own experience, had to do with them alone!  They created their own experience and co-created everything else in between!  This is a difficult concept for many or most to understand – because most of us can recite this nice little list of things that they desire in a mate.  But the problem is that they never really end up observing their mate accurately.  We think that we do – but our greatest objections (in the other person), we either project the image of the problem onto our mates, and/or co-create an actual undesirable outworking. This includes all of the things that we say that we don’t and do want in our relationship.  Each one of us, with the greatest of detail, create the best, the worst and everything in between.  I would have to say that it’s easy for me to see these factors when it comes to someone else, but the real art is in taking it to oneself.  And that is something that I am living both failure and victory with, depending on the moment that I’m in.  It’s can be a very challenging process.  The key will always be in my ability to look at everything; through the context of how I can take responsibility for all things in my experience; while being empathetic with my mate and everyone else in life.
 

What is the current divorce rate?  It’s huge!  And it has nothing to do with anything except for the fact that we’ve created a culture of people who think that everyone in their lives is the true cause of their problems.  So people go (usually cyclically) from one relationship to the next and never realizing anything except for very temporary joy, and perhaps a few years of honeymoon highs, etc.  But it always ends in a bad way and, often, very similar way.  And it keeps getting worse in the persons experience; as they cannot help but to begin to realize who the actual problem is (it’s them)!  In my case, it’s me!  And in your case, it’s you!
 

Very few people stop and are actually able to save their marriage before it dissolves completely.  It’s usually the damned ego, and having to be right, that kills the chances of a real surrendering to the truth of love.  The human consciousness just doesn’t believe enough in itself or in God (for that matter) to be able commit to staying steady through the tough and truly valuable times.  The roughest times can become the most valuable.  The real gold only comes after you commit yourself to working in the mine until you hit pay dirt!  And that job in the mine of the relationship is hard and sometimes very long, but completely worth it.  There is no other way to get the real gold!
 

Anyone can look back and give themselves 2 million reasons why their partner is wrong or bad or is not enough in some way and quite easily rationalize shutting them right out!  But it’s all part of a lie that we tell ourselves (and often others, also, to help support us in our delusions).  If one wanted to, one could also list 2 million incredibly wonderful things about the same person.  But we get locked into thinking poorly about people - just to make ourselves right!  And “right” always looses…  The truth is just as simple as that.  That’s why someone with great wisdom realized what the truth of marriage really means in the human experience and created the standard wedding vows that hold a timeless truth!  If you really want to grow as a person and actually experience the truth of love with another - “For better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health” – stay committed, be loyal and be true…