Of late, the subject of “Relationships” has taken the forefront of conscious focus. In this life that I have been living for over 50 years, I have experienced both joy and sadness in relationships. The joys call to an experiential fulfillment and the sadness, vice versa. My take on “fulfillment” has greatly changed over the years. Increasingly, I find that my experience is more subject to what I AM expressing/creating than anything else. While being sensitive to others may lead to vastly diversified experiences overall, my own living impetus is the deciding factor with respect to my baseline experience. Because this is so, my outlook or perspective is the key.
Perspective means to look through something. Perhaps one might say that it’s seeing beyond that something. In fact, that is very interesting because people have often thought that they had to dissect everything carefully in order to see it clearly. But, in fact, seeing something “clearly” means seeing beyond that something…! The true seeing of things actually reveals the “Being” of that something. When One sees beyond or through something, not being focused on the thing itself, one begins to observe and experience the essence of that something as it pertains to the “Whole.”
The title of this blog post is, “Marriages / Unions - The Dances Of Life…!” How does this “perspective” subject matter fit into this? It’s simple, really. The truth of “perspective” can lend itself to expansive or non-exclusive thinking, with respect to relationships. As One begins to look at one’s relationship with all people as non-exclusive, more can be shared and greater richness experienced. Again, it has to do with One’s “perspective.” It doesn’t mean that a person needs to have more than one intimate partner, but it also doesn’t mean that a person must only be intimate with one person…nor that a person needs to go around coveting others.
I had a chat today with a man whom I respect and appreciate very much. This man has formed the largest online-based ministry in the world. We talked about many things. The word ‘adultery’ was one of the topics. Interestingly enough, according to my friend–whose knowledge of word origins I happen to trust–the meaning of the word adultery as used in the “Old Testament” had absolutely nothing to do with sex. Adultery meant, ‘to twist, darken and belittle something’. Webster’s definition of this word is directed completely to a sexual connotation. Needless to say, the definition of the word ‘adultery’ itself has been adulterated!
Many of man’s laws and rules have been put into place as a result of a lack of “perspective.” God’s rules are simple and loving. God directs people to be loving, giving, and caring – and NOT to be possessive and controlling! If One’s desire is to serve God, One continually and lovingly sets everyone free. The living process of relationships is a dance. There are many forms of dance – but all of the forms can offer an air of rhythm and beauty. I love watching old Greek men dancing together and the women too! There are many, many forms of dance. Some include partnership with one, some with many, and some are offered solo. Let each One do their dance and let US support the uniqueness and beauty of their expression!
These are the thoughts that are moving through me. I invite you to click on‘comments’ and share your thoughts and experiences on this subject.
